'Time Heals All Wounds': Is There Any Truth to This?

If you've believed that getting over a traumatic event will just take a few months, know that you are not alone. Most of us have been in that situation and held that same belief in the past. After all, there's a reason why the idiom "time heals all wounds" is so widely used. Even though the speaker normally has good intentions, it's not always simple to understand that healing is a possibility. Sometimes the present pain weighs so heavily on us that we cannot see beyond it. A person who has been wounded can experience many emotions. Depending on the circumstances, one may feel anger or frustration, and sadness or depression may also be present. The amount of time it takes to heal depends on the complexity of an individual's experience and circumstance as well as the presence of effective coping mechanisms.

It's OK to feel hurt. It is even OK to feel angry. However, learning to live through the pain of a wounding experience is important to re-establish balance in your life. Understanding how to identify your feelings and address the situation will help you begin to heal. Many people who experience a severe loss will tell you that, despite being excruciating, the first shock and pain weren't the most trying period for them. When the reality of living without a loved one starts to sink in, which may take weeks or even months, that may happen (and those who supported them through the early days of the loss take a step back). It is starting to take in that you will never, ever talk with this person again, feel them, hear them, or have the same special connection you did with them. For a number of causes, they end up "trapped" in their grieving. For instance:

  1. Because the emotions associated with the loss are so intense, I don't want to embrace the truth of the loss.
  2. Denial of how strongly the loss has affected.
  3. Traumatic events, such as a violent or self-inflicted death, can increase the severity of the loss.

Ever notice how torturously slowly time passes while you're recuperating in a hospital from an injury? Or when you're awaiting the effects of a pain reliever after suffering from a migraine? When you're in emotional pain, the same guidelines still apply. When minutes feel like days, "time heals all wounds," feels like getting smacked in the face.

A WORD FROM SOCIALLY SOULED

One of the most well-known sayings is "time heals all wounds," however this may not always be the case. Time can be used for healing even if it isn't really a healer. However, it's ultimately up to you to figure out how to heal yourself in the time that passes after suffering a wound or trauma. Consider seeking the assistance of a therapist or other trained mental health professional if you are having trouble moving past an experience. The healing process can be aided by a skilled professional in ways that promote much deeper healing than time alone can.

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